When Everything Falls Apart... Do THIS (Tower Card Energy)

If you've ever pulled the Tower card in a reading and felt your stomach drop, you already know the energy. But what happens when that card stops being a symbol and starts being your actual life? That's what this episode is about.

And full disclosure: I'm writing this from the middle of it.

What the Tower Card Actually Means

The Tower card in tarot shows a strong building on fire, crumbling. Most people dread it because it means something major is being dismantled. A relationship. A career. A belief system. Something you thought was solid is coming down.

But here's the reframe that changes everything: the Tower doesn't destroy what's strong. It destroys what was never as solid as you thought.

When you make a real, serious declaration about what you want for your life, not a wish, but a genuine claim, the universe, your higher self, your future self, whatever resonates with you, begins showing you the structures that won't be able to hold that new version of you. And those structures start to crumble. The bigger the claim, the bigger what falls.

That's not punishment. That's preparation.

What Happened to Me Four Years Ago

In March of 2022, Colin and I moved into our current office space. Triple the size of our previous location, triple the rent. I had made a declaration: I wanted to grow this business. We needed space to do it.

The day we moved in, two of my three in-house employees quit. Neither knew the other was doing it. I called the third one in a panic, and she told me she was leaving too.

I lost my mind. I spiraled. I screamed "what the fuck is happening" at the universe while standing in a brand new office I could barely afford with no staff to help me run it.

But here's what actually happened: when we sat down with those employees, we found out they thought the business was a sinking ship. The chaos and miscommunication that had been simmering beneath the surface, they assumed we didn't see it. They thought they were jumping before it went under.

That conversation was brutal and it was also the most important one we'd had in years. One employee stayed. One moved on. And Colin and I rebuilt with the kind of communication and structure we should have had all along. What followed were some of the most profitable years in the history of Inked Goddess Creations.

The structures that crumbled were the ones that needed to. We just couldn't see it until they fell.

Why I'm Calm This Time

Right now, in early 2026, I'm in the middle of another Tower moment. Structures I never questioned are crumbling, and I'm not going to get into the details because it's still in motion and I want to keep the energy clean. But my business coach looked at everything I was telling her and said "you seem very calm."

And I am.

Because I've been through this before. And it always works out. Not the way I planned, but better than I planned, which I couldn't have seen from where I was standing when everything was on fire.

The calmer you get, the quieter you get, the more clearly you can see what's actually happening and what you're being asked to build next.

Five Things to Do When the Tower Hits Your Life

1. Shift your perception from "why is this happening to me" to "what is this showing me."

View it through curiosity instead of panic. Ask what you're being shown as each structure falls. Why wasn't this strong enough? How can you rebuild it better? The Tower is information. Treat it like that.

2. Find moments of calm so you can hear what comes next.

You cannot hear the instructions when you're screaming back at the universe. Even small pockets of stillness matter. Ask "what do I need to know?" and then actually get quiet enough to receive an answer.

3. Find evidence from your own past that upheaval works out.

Your nervous system's only job right now is to drag you back to what felt safe before you made the declaration. Counter that by building a case for yourself. Think of every time the shit hit the fan and something better came from it. The job you lost that led to the one you actually wanted. The relationship that ended and gave you back yourself. Build the evidence. Regulate the nervous system.

4. See things as they are, not as you want them to be.

This is the hardest one. When a major structure falls, especially a relationship or a career, there's a temptation to idealize what it was. But if you get honest, you'll usually find it wasn't fully working before the Tower came. You just didn't want to look at it. Look at it now. What was it actually giving you? Was it aligned with who you want to be?

5. Trust and forge ahead anyway.

You asked for something bigger. The Tower is clearing the path. Trust that what's falling needed to fall, keep moving, and take aligned action even when you can't see the whole road yet.

That's where I am right now. Structures are crumbling, I know why they're crumbling, and I'm listening for what comes next instead of white-knuckling the plan I had before.

The Bottom Line

The Tower card is not a death sentence. It's a demolition crew. And demolition only happens when something better is being built in its place.

If your whole world feels like it's on fire right now, you're not being punished. You're being prepared. Get calm, get curious, trust your past evidence, see things clearly, and keep moving forward.

It always works out. Even when it doesn't look like it yet.

This post is pulled from Episode 216 of Busy, Gritty, Inked, and Witchy. If you want the full conversation, including the real-time story I was living through while recording it, watch or listen below. New episodes drop every Wednesday.